Counselling is Not For ME!!

It may sound like any oxymoron, but that is what I said when I was a student some years ago. So today, when I hear these words being echoed around me, I tend to be more compassionate.

In my case, my tutor had suggested taking up counselling, so as to have a deeper understanding both as therapist and patient.

After much deliberation, I agreed to go. Lets just say that I did not realise that I needed counselling. On reflection of my sessions, I realised that I had been supressing lots of childhood issues and it all came pouring out during the sessions, once I opened up. I also had some light bulb moments and to this day will advocate for counselling and with personal growth.

Here are some top responses about why people won't go to counselling:

1. Fear

Fear of being vulnerable and exposed, fear of telling other people what happened, fear of letting another race know, fear of change, fear of the unknown, fear that they may outgrow their friends, family, and loved ones.

2. Doubt

Due to inexperience, other people's perceptions or one's belief systems lead to doubt that it will work but the only way to find out is to try!

3. Judgment

Many people avoid counselling because they believe that it is a taboo. Some communities tend to ostracise members by judging their actions, more specifically, being seen as weak or even mad.

4. Pride

Sometimes people have a hard time admitting they need help. There is a belief that admitting that one needs help is a form of failure.

5. Misinformation

People also forego mental health treatment because they’re misinformed about what it involves and how they’ll be perceived by their therapist.

6. Instant Gratification

We live in a world where people want an instant fix, not realising that the issue that they are facing took a long time to develop and so it will take a while to treat and deal with it.

I usually say to clients that they should not expect magic but some uprooting, processing and time.

If clients are in a hurry and does not give themselves time, then chances are they would not have benefited from counselling. Therapeutic change takes time (on average 8-12 sessions)

Reflection:

Lots of organisations have been advocating for mental health lately. The topic is therefore more welcome in workplaces. If you feel unwell, it is worth having a conversation with a therapist. Sometimes hearing yourself speak to an impartial person can be all that's needed; other times, being heard, listened to and being understood without judgement makes the difference.

What is the difference between the Chakra and the Aura?

Chakras and Auras are both energy systems that we all carry, (but each having a different function and located in different parts of the body. It is this energy system that connects to the oneness. While the Chakras we will talk about are found within the body, the Aura is like circles of varying colours always expanding around the body.

The flow of energy between the Chakras and aura is continuous. Energy passes through the chakras into your aura and onto the outside world, and from the outside world back through your auric layers to and through your chakras to your body. This energy exchange is what gives you that psychic sense of your surroundings and is directly affected by your thoughts, emotions, health, and state of mind. Thus, a chakras and aura can get damaged, and one must put effort into balancing and repair.

A total of 22 Chakras have been identified and some believe that there might be more. However, I will talk about 7 popular chakras below:

- The first Chakra is called the root Chakra. It is located at the base of the spine (perineum, pelvic plexus). It is called the Muladhara in Sanskrit. The colour associated with the base chakra is red!

- The second Chakra is called the Sacral Chakra. It is located above the root but below the navel. It is called the Svandisthana in Sanskrit. The colour associated with the Sacral chakra is Orange!

- The third Chakra is called the Solar Plexus. It is located just behind and slightly above the navel. It is called the Manipura in Sanskrit. The colour associated with the Solar Plexus chakra is yellow. Think of the sun!

- The fourth Chakra is called the heart Chakra. It is located just behind the sternum, level with the heart. It is called Anahata in Sanskrit. The colour associated with the heart chakra is Green!

- The fifth Chakra is the throat Chakra. It is located behind the well of the throat, pharyngeal plexus. It is called Visuddhi in Sanskrit. The colour associated with the throat chakra is Blue!

- The sixth Chakra is the brow Chakra or third eye. It is located behind the space between the eyebrow mid - brain at the medulla and prneat plexuses. It is called Ajna in Sanskrit. The colour associated with this chakra is Indigo!

- The seventh Chakra is the Crown Chakra. It is located at the top of the head/ crown of the head. It is called Sahasrara in Sanskrit. The colour associated with this chakra is Violet or white!

The Aura:

Your aura means the layers around your body and can be seen in various colours.

- The first starts with a red layer called the enteric layer.

- The second is an orange layer called the emotional layer.

- The third is a yellow layer called the mental layer.

- The fourth is a green layer called the causal layer.

- The firth is a blue layer called the atomic layer.

- The sixth is an indigo layer called the intuitive layer.

- The seventh is a violet layer called the cosmic layer.

With trained eyes, you can see your or someone else’s dominant aura. The dominant aura is an indication of persona, interests, gifts and levels of energy of a person.

Symptoms such as anxiety, depression, anger, over competitiveness, confidence, rigidity may indicate whether a person’s chakra is balanced or imbalanced. Treatments to bring a chakra into balance could involve, music therapy, counselling, use of crystals, Reiki or Sekhem healing. Although similar methods could be used for aura healing, but working on an aura is more intense and require other methods.

A simple method of soothing your chakra is to touch that area and wear a co-ordinating colour or eat food of that colour.

For assistance with you may reach me on the contact information at www.therapyandhealer.com. Liz

What is the Difference between Reiki and Sekhem Healing?

Clinical evidence has proven that Reiki works! In a specific clinical research, the case studies proved showed that there was strong evidence that Reiki was responsible for positive biological responses both in humans and animals. https://www.uclahealth.org/rehab/workfiles/urban%20zen/research%20articles/reiki_really_works-a_groundbreaking_scientific_study.pdf

Reiki is now approved for use in many hospitals and hospices both in the USA and UK. There has been no research done on Sekhem to date, but as it is a stronger modality, no doubt if the results would be astounding!

Both Reiki and Sekhem are safe and natural healing methods, using hands only, connecting to the physical and non physical aspect of self. Suitable for all. including children, adults, pregnant, sick and healthy people, on premises, plants and animals.

The word Sekhem means Power of Powers. The word Reiki is a combination of 2 words. Put simply, Reiki is the guided flow of life force energy. Rei means "God's Wisdom or the Higher Power" and Ki is "life force energy" .

Reiki was received and first practiced in Japan then the knowledge and practice spread in USA, whereas, Sekhem was received in Egypt and then taught and practiced globally.

Although Reiki is more popular than Sekhem, Sekhem is much older and only was rediscovered many years after the end of Egyptian Dynasty. The Egyptians had the knowledge and practiced Sekhem. Whereas, Mikao Usai received Reiki knowledge in the late 1800s and since then Reiki has been in use.

Sekhem energy is pure unconditional love, drawn from the limitless sea of pure living light energy. It is a very high vibrational frequency and when received, it will feel different, stronger and act in quicker disbursement of energy within the body,

simultaneously working on all levels of your being. Reiki is also pure and unconditional love energy but draws from the universe to support and heal our energy systems in order to achieve a higher vibrational energy, in a gentle manner, so you may need lots more sessions.

Both Reiki and Sekhem are drawn from a higher source of light energy and practitioners are trained to provide either or both.

In order to activate Reiki or Sekhem, the healer will use energy received from source (ie light) together with symbology, which is sacred, pure, filled with love and light.

Both Reiki and Sekhem are healing systems of light energy, which is applied, using the hands and mind only to help and support you. There is no religion attached to healing, just pure love and light coming from our universe.

Sekhem incorporates a few aspects of Reiki because as we are one, light is one too even if different angles are used. They are bound to have some similarity.

Both could be received either in person or by distant healing. Distant healing is highly effective because energy moves and can be directed. Therefore, the same principle applies to a client who requests the distant healing.

How do I know which one is right for me? For those who are intuitive, I would say go with what attracts you. For those who are inquisitive, please give therapyandhealer.com a call and we can have a chat. From that point, you will be able to make a more informed decision.

I hope that you enjoyed reading my blog and that it was helpful enough, of course, this is only a summary. I experience so much joy in supporting clients and I hope that one day I will have the pleasure of helping you.

Wishing you well, Liz